Where does the difficulty lie? Thomas Hübl, PhD shared an insight yesterday that as part of #trauma, we tend to ascribe qualities to others: “That was a difficult meeting” or “X is a difficult client”. Such language externalizes the difficulty, elevating it to a reality that we are helpless to change. This is comforting in…
Presence allows us to catch our panicked unconscious reactions so we can learn to do something different.
Presence allows us to catch our panicked unconscious reactions so we can learn to do something different. I’m at Thomas Hübl, PhD and Amy Elizabeth Fox’s Trauma-Informed Coaching program kickoff, and plan to share insights and learnings throughout the week. At last night’s intro session, Thomas shared how trauma, which he defines as a interior…
I’m attending the California Conference for Women today. Unsurprisingly but still disappointingly, only about 1% of the attendees are men. The panel I’m watching is talking about how they as women executives need to help support other women into executive positions. But that’s not enough – men need to do their part to support women, to support people of color, to support people who don’t look like them to succeed.
I’m attending the California Conference for Women today. Unsurprisingly but still disappointingly, only about 1% of the attendees are men. The panel I’m watching is talking about how they as women executives need to help support other women into executive positions. But that’s not enough – men need to do their part to support women,…
What is your intent as a leader?
What is your intent as a leader? Many people misunderstand leadership as getting more people to follow them. They do whatever what it takes to get people to follow, which often means telling them what they want to hear. Another variation is the leaders who pride themselves on how many people are in their organization…
How will you increase the quality of your time?
How will you increase the quality of your time? Time is a zero-sum game: one hour spent working is an hour not spent with family, with friends, with passion projects, or on our health. So people treat it as linear, as if the only way to get more results is to spend more time. This…
Seppo Helava’s advice on resumes is spot on
Seppo Helava’s advice on resumes is spot on. If you are not getting interviews, consider attending his workshop to get tips on tuning up your resume to lore clearly advertise your value.
Maybe you should ask them.
Maybe you should ask them. I’ve had several coaching conversations recently where somebody asks me how to handle another person. And my response is generally to ask them, not me. I don’t know what’s going on in their head, or how they are interpreting the situation. Only they do. The key is to ask in…
It’s not about you. That disproportionate reaction you’re witnessing? It’s theirs, not yours.
It’s not about you. That disproportionate reaction you’re witnessing? It’s theirs, not yours. I’ve been listening to several of Thomas Hübl, PhD’s podcasts as prework for his Trauma-Informed Coaching program that I’m starting in March, and one point that really resonates with me is that we get frozen in the past. When something was too…
Last week, I had a remarkable experience. I spent three days in person with other people, mostly without screens, as part of a coaching workshop.
Last week, I had a remarkable experience. I spent three days in person with other people, mostly without screens, as part of a coaching workshop. Because I had made that my only commitment for those days, the #productivity voice in my head was mostly quiet and I was able to just be present. It was…
I enjoyed this wide ranging conversation with Mike Forrester exploring some of the patterns that can keep us stuck in situations that aren’t serving us
I enjoyed this wide ranging conversation with Mike Forrester exploring some of the patterns that can keep us stuck in situations that aren’t serving us. Check it out below!