What has to change for you to reach your goals?
There are two kinds of goals:
1) Incremental goals where you can see the path to reaching them, and you just need to work hard and execute.
2) Transformative or 10x goals, where doing more of what you’re doing today won’t get you there. You have to try something radically different.
What’s interesting to me as a coach is that we often mis-identify type 2 goals as type 1 goals. There’s a flabbergasting statistic from Kegan and Lahey who created the Immunity to Change framework; they studied heart attack survivors who were told they had to change their diet and exercise habits or they would at high risk of having another heart attack. Even under the threat of death, people only changed 1 out of 7 times (14%).
Why? Because they thought that changing their exercise and diet were type 1 goals, where they just had to pay attention and they’d change (the New Year’s resolution approach). The Immunity to Change methodology points out that they had to change their fundamental relationship to food and exercise; in other words, a type 2 goal. If you unconsciously equate big dinners with family, it’s not enough to resolve to eat less; you have to rewire your brain to recognize that family is the key driver, and the way to family is no longer food but to stay healthy and alive. Same motivation, different behaviors.
What goals or resolutions are you struggling with? What might you have to fundamentally change your relationship with in a type 2 way to achieve what you thought was a type 1 goal?
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