Month: May 2023

I will be a speaker for the Ganas Ventures Expert Series with Lolita Taub later this year, and I’d love for you to attend on November 7th as I speak on the topic of #leadership and #alignment. The speaker series is for experts to share valuable insights for underestimated founders, funders, and friends on their startup-investor…

Reading people is a key skill for executives. One question leaders often have is how to effectively manage people who are doing work you haven’t done. If you’re a VP of engineering, you generally have a good sense of what the engineers under you are doing; even if you’re not coding every day, you understand…

Want to learn about people’s deep fears? Listen to what they accuse other people of. Projection is human. Our brains assume that everybody else is exactly like us. When somebody accuses you of something that feels awful, they are rarely talking about you; they are projecting their own shadow onto you. Once you learn this…

They’re doing the best they can. How often do we hold people to a higher standard than that? “They should know better” or “they should be acting this way” is far more common, particularly for managers and company leaders That’s understandable! With greater power comes greater responsibility, so we’d like them to be better. But…

Treat it like a tantrum. I have two young kids, so I am learning to deal with tantrums. The key is for me to realize that their tantrum is not about me – they are expressing their big feelings about the situation. When I take it personally as an indictment on my parenting, I get…