Month: May 2023

Repair the relationship. When we realize we’ve done something wrong, we often want to jump straight to what we’ll do differently in the future. But that skips a vital step: acknowledging the impact of our actions, and apologizing for what happened. I’ve had a few recent coaching conversations where clients realized they did not show…

Give them a draft to get started. When I was the rush chair of my fraternity in college, we sent a summer mailing to all of the incoming freshmen to introduce ourselves. All of the fraternities did this, so we wanted to show off our personality to stand out. Early in the summer, we had…

Think of your to-do list as a menu.” “” “Many people feel the weight of their to-do list as a crushing burden which they can never complete. Tasks get added to the list faster than they can do them, so they feel they are getting further and further behind. ” “” “Yet we can only…

Think of your to-do list as a menu. Many people feel the weight of their to-do list as a crushing burden which they can never complete. Tasks get added to the list faster than they can do them, so they feel they are getting further and further behind. Yet we can only do one thing…

I really enjoyed being part of a panel on The Future of #coaching at #criyacon yesterday. ” “” “Thanks to Deboshree Dutta for organizing the event, Shyvee Shi for leading the label, and Priyanka Upadhyay , Prashanthi Ravanavarapu and Ibrahim Bashir as my fellow panelists. We had a great discussion, and even managed to keep…

I really enjoyed being part of a panel on The Future of #coaching at #criyacon yesterday. Thanks to Deboshree Dutta for organizing the event, Shyvee Shi for leading the label, and Priyanka Upadhyay , Prashanthi Ravanavarapu and Ibrahim Bashir as my fellow panelists. We had a great discussion, and even managed to keep people’s attention…

Complaining is a good signal. At a job early in my career, I was incredibly frustrated with the state of the company and leadership, and many of my coworkers were complaining as well. One of my older, wiser coworkers said this was a good sign, because complaining meant that people cared. Once they stopped complaining,…

I will be a speaker for the Ganas Ventures Expert Series with Lolita Taub later this year, and I’d love for you to attend on November 7th as I speak on the topic of #leadership and #alignment. The speaker series is for experts to share valuable insights for underestimated founders, funders, and friends on their startup-investor…

Reading people is a key skill for executives. One question leaders often have is how to effectively manage people who are doing work you haven’t done. If you’re a VP of engineering, you generally have a good sense of what the engineers under you are doing; even if you’re not coding every day, you understand…

Want to learn about people’s deep fears? Listen to what they accuse other people of. Projection is human. Our brains assume that everybody else is exactly like us. When somebody accuses you of something that feels awful, they are rarely talking about you; they are projecting their own shadow onto you. Once you learn this…