Want to learn about people’s deep fears?
Listen to what they accuse other people of.
Projection is human. Our brains assume that everybody else is exactly like us. When somebody accuses you of something that feels awful, they are rarely talking about you; they are projecting their own shadow onto you.
Once you learn this mental shift, you can stop feeling attacked, and instead use those moments to develop insight into the other person. If they say “Nobody likes working with you”, they have just told you their fear. The people that accuse others of infidelity are the ones most likely to be considering it themselves; since they spend all their time thinking about it, they assume others are as well.
What’s an example of projection that you’ve noticed?
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