What are you afraid to hear? ”
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“One common pattern I see as a coach is people being unwilling to ask for something (e.g. greater scope), because they’re afraid to hear they don’t deserve it. They would rather not confirm what their Inner Critic is telling them: that they aren’t good enough, that they don’t have what it takes. ”
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“And yet it’s not a logical move. They already don’t have the scope they want, so being told no doesn’t change the situation in that way. And making the ask and hearing the no gives them more information to better plan their career; if they really have no future at the company, wouldn’t they rather know that and make other plans, than to hope things change without asking? But the idea of hearing the negation out loud is so painful that people would rather never ask. ”
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“There’s no easy way to develop the self-confidence and self-esteem necessary to be able to hear such assessments as assessments, rather than as the truth. It takes the practice of making the ask, getting rejected, and realizing the world hasn’t ended, so you pick yourself up and figure out what’s next, even if it’s somewhere else. ”
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“What are you currently afraid to ask for in your career? If you’re expecting a No, why are you scared to hear it? ”
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“#leadership #courage #coaching ”
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