Are you creating rules to avoid discomfort? Designing rules like “Here’s how we handle this situation” or “That’s not how we do things here” can be an efficient way to get things done within an organization. But it can also be a way to avoid talking about difficult and controversial topics that bring up fear…
Month: March 2024
When you stop being present, you are working with an outdated image.
When you stop being present, you are working with an outdated image. Our minds construct models of other people to efficiently navigate the interaction. When we are present and open, we are constantly updating that model with new information. But most of us live in a stressed and hurried state that blocks us from the…
Where does the difficulty lie?
Where does the difficulty lie? Thomas Hübl, PhD shared an insight yesterday that as part of #trauma, we tend to ascribe qualities to others: “That was a difficult meeting” or “X is a difficult client”. Such language externalizes the difficulty, elevating it to a reality that we are helpless to change. This is comforting in…
Presence allows us to catch our panicked unconscious reactions so we can learn to do something different.
Presence allows us to catch our panicked unconscious reactions so we can learn to do something different. I’m at Thomas Hübl, PhD and Amy Elizabeth Fox’s Trauma-Informed Coaching program kickoff, and plan to share insights and learnings throughout the week. At last night’s intro session, Thomas shared how trauma, which he defines as a interior…