What happens if you step back? Most high achievers are trained to lean in; they have learned to push harder when something gets difficult. This can be effective with many kinds of individual work where it’s you against the work. But that tactic does not work as well with other people, because action creates reaction….
Month: March 2024
What conversation are you having?
What conversation are you having? One concept I found helpful from the book Difficult Conversations by Stone, Patton and Heen, is that such conversations often intermingle three different conversations: Facts: What happened? Feelings: How do I feel about what happened? Identity: How is my identity impacted by what happened? Mixing those conversations can get confusing,…
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I shared my top tips for success as a Chief of Staff in Clara Ma ‘s newsletter Ask A Chief of Staff:
I shared my top tips for success as a Chief of Staff in Clara Ma ‘s newsletter Ask A Chief of Staff: 1) Get clarity on what you and your principal define as success in the role. 2) Communicate communicate communicate. 3) Learn to influence without authority. Check it out at https://lnkd.in/gbVFFnzn
Giving difficult feedback can be an act of caring.
Giving difficult feedback can be an act of caring. I was once struggling in my job, and knew I wasn’t doing my best work. And nobody noticed. I wondered if anybody was even paying attention, or if the standards were so low there that I could get away with doing mediocre work. Either way, it…
How you initially show up in a situation sets expectations for how you will be judged going forward.
How you initially show up in a situation sets expectations for how you will be judged going forward. I heard a funny thought experiment along these lines: — Person A starts a new job and wants to show how dedicated they are, so they stay until 9pm every night putting in the extra time. —…
If you want to address imposter syndrome, create opportunities for people to share their struggles.
If you want to address imposter syndrome, create opportunities for people to share their struggles. I was on a call earlier today with Matt Heinz’s CMO Coffee Chat, and he shared that they had a conversation about imposter syndrome last year where 90+% of the participants responded to poll that they felt imposter syndrome, and…
Being matters more than doing.
Being matters more than doing. Watching Thomas Hübl, PhD coach last week was an inspiration because he coached from the body, not the mind. Instead of asking brilliant insightful questions, he coached by matching the client’s energy and then guiding them to a place of greater calm in the body which led to their own…
I appreciate Rashi Kakkar’s newsletter, Decks and Diapers, where she explores how different people handle the challenges of being a working parent.
I appreciate Rashi Kakkar’s newsletter, Decks and Diapers, where she explores how different people handle the challenges of being a working parent. I was honored to be featured in her latest edition at https://lnkd.in/eJafCuJM – check it out!
How do you create experiences of belonging for yourself?
How do you create experiences of belonging for yourself? I used my newsletter to reflect on a couple recent experiences where I found belonging in part because I chose to go in with an open mindset where I expected to belong. More at https://lnkd.in/gAGFiuB5 Expectations often create reality in that if I expect something not…